Workplace Romance: What Employers Need to Know
Love is in the air… but should it be? It’s a perennial question for employers when managing romantic relationships in the workplace, and navigating how an office romance might collide with HR.
Workplace relationships have become an especially timely issue in the #MeToo era, with employees and employers collectively asking: are workplace relationships ever acceptable? And if so, what rules should govern them?
Data reported in Forbes from 2019 revealed that 58% of people admit to having at least one office romance. Interestingly, 67% of those respondents kept their relationship secret, and 41% didn’t know their company’s policy on workplace romance. Of those who have been in a relationship with a co-worker, 72% would do it again.
There is no point denying it, romance can blossom in the workplace. Co-workers routinely spend more time together than might spend with friends or family. The shared experience of working together — delivering projects, overcoming obstacles and managing the highs and lows of work — can develop strong emotional bonds between colleagues. It’s only natural that it can be the catalyst for romance.
So, if office romance is an inevitable part of working life, how can you protect your business while being respectful to workplace relationships? Thankfully there are some practical steps you can take, without becoming the Love Police.
Let’s be clear: harassment is not romance
Before we even discuss workplace romance, it needs to be made abundantly clear: your workplace must have a current and enforceable sexual harassment policy. The existence and enforcement of a sexual harassment policy isn’t contingent on the prospect of workplace romance. Sexual harassment policies are an essential feature of your standard suite of HR policies and procedures that clearly define the standards of acceptable workplace behaviour. Employees who may be the victim of unwanted sexual advances need to have adequate support and access to a reporting mechanism that alerts their employers to inappropriate behaviour so swift action can be taken.
Focus on behaviour, not relationships
Banning office romance outright probably isn’t a realistic (or enforceable) position for an employer. At best, it just encourages the lovebirds to sneak around. At worst, it can be considered a breach of privacy by employees who can become demoralised or resentful. A better option is to implement a firm workplace romance policy or broader workplace relationship policy that provides clearer definitions of acceptable office behaviour. It allows you to take action if romantic relationships impact on work duties or conduct, without banning the romance altogether.
Managing a manager employee romantic relationship
Workplace romances become especially complicated when the relationship is between a supervisor and a direct report. The power imbalance can add a murky undertone to such a relationship, and as we’ve seen with the #MeToo movement, this kind of power dynamic can too easily stray into exploitation. What should HR do to mitigate potential risks associated with inappropriate workplace relationships in such circumstances?
Some companies resort to banning these relationships outright. While this may seem heavy-handed, other companies have introduced policies (known as non-fraternisation policies) whereby a romantic relationship will automatically trigger a change of reporting lines, or the manager is transferred to a different department.
Even if your business has a more relaxed approach, establishing clear workplace romance rules is critical for effective workplace romance management.
Encourage and promote disclosure
An additional step is implementing a formal workplace relationship disclosure process. If staff ask, 'do you have to disclose a relationship at work?', your policy should oblige them to notify HR. The intent of such a policy is not to monitor or interfere with the relationship, but to ensure steps can be taken to avoid potential conflict of interest situations. This policy should also outline the subsequent actions once a relationship is disclosed, and any potential disciplinary action if the policy is not followed. It’s a measure that can help protect the employees, as well as the business.
Education and training
As we know, company policies and procedures aren’t much good if no-one knows they exist. This is where onboarding, induction and employee handbooks are especially important. You should also consider a program of internal refresher courses, so all employees are aware of company policies, and the official position on workplace relationships.